I swear, I swear, sometimes drama follows me. I usually just sit at home thinking of what to cook but I get roped into things I am not even aware of. The other day I was checking my messages on Facebook and I saw that I had some messages in the requests inbox as well. I usually ignore them because I get weird messages from “people” who may or may not be real. Anyway there was one message from what looks like a legit human being and her message was, “Hey…how did you know my boyfriend?” The date stamp showed that it was sent around the beginning of this month. I had no idea who she was nor who her boyfriend was. So I messaged her back asking who her boyfriend was. But having the patience of a teaspoon and Facebook being an open book for some people who don’t know how to set up their privacy settings properly, I found out that her boyfriend was this dude from university whom I’ve met a couple of times but have never actually shared even a single conversation before. He added me and I accepted him because I wasn’t thinking. I guess the thought process in my mind was he’s an old university acquaintance and we also shared mutual friends so it felt innocent enough. Probably shouldn’t have done it because this woman was full-on throwing shades at her now ex-boyfriend and also the other women he might have been with behind her back. She thought I was one of them and she was getting ready for an online showdown. So I replied back to her saying I don’t know her “boyfriend” and that I just accepted his friend request without any particular reason. She did not reply but I saw that she read my message. This morning, I checked and he had unfriended me. It gave me a good chuckle. In the words of Taylor Swift, I did not want to be part of this narrative to begin with, so I’m glad to be out of it.
I thought more about the woman. Poor her – how crazy would a woman have to be to monitor her boyfriend’s Facebook activities and send messages to women she has never met before to ask how they knew him. I take the cake for being the person who’s got left behind one of the worst possible ways but I have never had the urge to talk to the other woman. I just let him go. If he wants to leave that badly, or if he is giving you enough reason to make you think that he’s cheating on you, let him go, sister. He’s definitely not worth it. What would she have done if I said we were together? That would just confirm that he is in fact cheating on her. I guess it really is up to individual woman to decide whether she wants to continue this kind of relationship. From my experience though, I can assure you it has been 100% better being alone than to be with someone who makes you feel lonely or a bit crazed in her case. It’s good that their relationship has ended I guess (here’s me totally getting up in other people’s business).
I have enjoyed this little bout of drama because living in the times of Coronavirus has been rather taxing and my back hurts after sitting to teach for hours on end.